Memories are Not Made of This

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Things are always happening around us and to us.  We feel our hearts race when we encounter a surprise (like getting an extra large chocolate chip in your ice cream), and we hold onto those memories for quick lifts during dull days.

I just wish I could remember more happy little surprises as the days roll on and the years speed by.  I had read somewhere that our notion of time flying as we grow older is due to our brain’s already well-stocked memory.  So, as we go along our day to day lives, nothing has quite the same sparkle as when we were younger – nothing surprises us anymore.

The advice, of course, was to create and experience new sensations so that time “slows” and our brains stay active.

My brain needs a good kick to remember details (that’s why I blog, scrapbook and journal).  It’s not like I…

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30 Days of Self Esteem Day 3: Forgiveness

Forgiveness Mandala by Wayne Stratz

Forgiveness Mandala by Wayne Stratz (Photo credit: Nutmeg Designs)

Jan Deelstra’s premise works – “Letting go means living longer and healthier and happier.  If you must get even with the purveyor of betrayal, get even with the victimizer by living your best life, letting go of any attachment to the circumstances that you are now far beyond.”

Easy for me to say.  There is scientific proof (see blog link) that forgiveness contributes to good health and longevity.  So why has it been so damn difficult sometimes?  Why have I sometimes felt as though I am admitting a frailty or defeat when I forgive some one who’s wronged me?  Does forgiveness absolve the person and justify the actions? Continue reading