Social Anxiety Be Gone!

anxietyWhen I first took the plunge and decided to publish A Girl from the Hill, I never considered the next logical step – selling A Girl from the Hill. I was clueless about the feelings that come from creating something, sweating and crying and laughing and agonizing over this baby of mine, only to then try to convince the rest of the world that it’s worth their time – and money.  Holy crap, I said to myself then and still say now. This marketing stuff is not easy.

I am not sure what I expected, for though I’m expressive, I’m just pathetic at networking, small talk, and walking up to people and asking them if they’d like to read my book. No, I’m the person who will sit with a million boxes of books printed and ready to sell in her living room, calmly waiting for the crowds to arrive. My ninety-year-old mother is a better salesperson than I am. “Didja know there’s a book about me?” she crows to anyone who will listen. And they listen.

So I’ve been trying to sell my book, and having all kinds of interesting adventures in the process. The best part of the selling process, besides making money, is, and I never thought I’d say this, meeting people. Not only meeting people, but talking to people. About me. And my book. And a whole bunch of other things that are important to us. Yes us. I am learning to become engaged, and hopefully, engaging.

You see, I often dread the thought of new places with new people. Even familiar places with familiar people. Call it social anxiety because that’s exactly what it is.  It isn’t apparent to people I work with, and I enjoy leading teams and projects successfully

Tonight, though, I wanted to take a moment to mention how incredibly fun it has been so far to talk to new people about writing and books, especially my book, these past eighteen months. Really, it’s been great therapy to share part of my life with others and not feel responsible for their happiness at the same time. Maybe they like me and my work, maybe they don’t. But I will not pass out and die if they don’t approve of me. Who knew?

The other aspect of this whole marketing thing that I’m grateful for is the writer friends I have made along the way. Whether it’s my blog buddies who write great stuff and urge me on when I blog, or the writers from ARIA or  ASTAL who share their work and their advice with me, and whose work provides me with the inspiration I need to keep writing even if it’s for 5 minutes a day.

So thank you all, who I’ve met so far on this journey, who write, read, share, and who have helped me grow as a person and a writer. Looking forward to next weekend at the Scituate Art Festival, when I’ll get another opportunity to reach out and find some more reasons to feel grateful and inspired.

Upcoming Events – I Miss You!

Trudy Clare Mitchell,   Official Blog Mascot

Trudy Clare Mitchell, Official Blog Mascot

Before you say anything, the answer is yes, I know I’ve been the absent blogger these days.  And yes I do miss not only my blog and its followers, but also catching up with my new blog buddies and commenting on them on a regular basis.  Life is very busy  – good busy – and keeping up with blogging and writing has been a challenge.  Excuses, excuses.Therefore I hereby commit to providing blog updates every Sunday at a minimum,  so please stay tuned and don’t forget about pattytmitchell!   I am looking forward to getting back in the saddle, and interacting more with all of the great writers out there that I have come to know and admire.

For local folks, I have a few events coming up where I will be promoting A Girl From the Hill and offering copies for sale and signing.

  • October 23rd 6PM – Barnes and Noble in Smithfield, RI.  I am absolutely thrilled about participating in their Local Authors Night. Some  other area authors will be there too, so if you can stop by to say hello, we all could use the support!   http://store-locator.barnesandnoble.com/event/4611236

 

  • November 19th at 6:30PM – I will be at Marion Mohr Library in Johnston, RI for a reading and book signing. I believe they are having a genealogy and Italian Heritage series during that week, so check out their site for more events if you’re interested. http://www.mohrlibrary.org/images/programs/mitchell.pdf 

I’m trying to drum up a few more appearances in the coming months, so I’ll keep you posted.  Bad pun, sorry.  (Inserting Shameless Plug Here) Just remember that ‘A Girl From the Hill’ makes a great gift, on Thanksgiving for a special family member, or for Christmas.  Whether you are Italian American or not, everyone has or at least knows a Mom. Or two …

Me and My Crow

Me and the Girl from the Hill at Davisville Library today

Me and the Girl from the Hill at Davisville Library today

What a cool day.  At our very first, and hopefully far from last, book reading and signing for A Girl From the Hill today, I was again reminded how much I love my friends and family.

Believe me, there is no feeling better than being surrounded by people who love and support you, and who truly enjoy watching and listening as you live a tiny piece of your dream.

I started A Girl From the Hill nearly three years ago.  My mother and I both put in a lot of work, me listening, writing, re-writing and thinking long and hard about some tough subjects; my mother telling me things to be shared publicly that haven’t even been shared with everyone in her family.  Pain, suffering, loss.  Things that change a person forever.  She revisited these places with me, along with going back to lots of good places.  We certainly had laughs going back to Marshall Street together.

I had nightmares about today all week.  One dream with 174 people packed into the tiny Davisville Free Library where I spoke.  One with people yelling out questions which I couldn’t answer.  Once with all of my family screaming at me.  Boy am I uptight.

The good news is that a beautiful little library opened its doors to me, my family and friends for an hour or so of reading, laughing and sharing.  And Dahlia enjoyed it so much, more than I imagined.  I felt such the pride watching her and listening to her, answering questions, laughing, feeling the adoration of the group and giving it right back.

And even though I spent the day fretting and fussing and driving my poor sister Maree nuts, getting to the point where the poor woman couldn’t even watch the traffic for me as I backed out of my mother’s driveway, once I got settled in everything changed.  In the moment, exactly where I was meant to be at exactly the right time.  Satisfaction and contentment from bringing our work full circle. 

I don’t know how I’ll do at our next gig, with perhaps more strangers and less familiar faces.  But today, my peeps gave me the strength, courage and determination to do this again.  Me and the Crow are ready for it. 

I Got Me an Author Page on Amazon.com!

Check it out!  https://www.amazon.com/author/mitchellpatricia

Check it out please, that is.  Blame it on giddiness and nerves as I prepare for my very first reading and book signing this Saturday.  Sorry, another shameless plug.

Still working on the page, but wanted to share.  Feeling like such the a Social Media Mogul!

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Road Shows, Then and Now

 

A Wrinkle in Time

A Wrinkle in Time (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Well, I’m a little frustrated with my running , or non-running self today.   But at least my Saturday was pretty cool, and filled with accomplishment.

My dear friend Kim accompanied me on my promo rounds, yesterday.  Like two traveling salesmen ladies we made the rounds with our ice coffees in our cup holders and 70’s and 80’s music on the radio.

First stop, Davisville Free Library in North Kingstown, where I am scheduled to do my first ‘gig’ reading and signing books.  I am both looking forward to this and dreading it at the same time.  Looking forward because it’s what I’ve wanted to do almost my whole conscious life.  Dreading for the same reason.  It’s a lovely, bright little town library with pleasant supportive people, so if nothing else I’ll spend a June afternoon  with some nice people.

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