I don’t hate the way I look today, which for me is a huge accomplishment. Even bigger, I am not judging myself as good bad or ugly based on the way I look today. Why? Well, I’m actively in the process of losing some weight, I eat clean and vegan 99% of the time. I am getting more exercise and I belong to an incredible emotional eating (EE) group that is teaching me how to understand that feelings and urges are feelings and urges. They pass, I can separate myself from them. I can observe them. They are not me. But even if I wasn’t doing all that, I am learning to love myself, no matter what my size is. It’s a strange, but delightful feeling to reconnect with my body. We’ve been so distant from each other for so many years.
Sounds easy, doesn’t it? But I believe this is a difficult lesson to learn and to practice. That’s because the ego – that essence of our uniqueness will fight this almost every time, especially if in a work or other competitive situation where being ‘right’ or ‘recognized is considered important.
But it’s worth the fight. I have never forgotten those people in my life who have given me the great gift of encouragement and bolstered my confidence when I felt unsure or was ready to give up. Those reflections help me put my monster ego aside and think about the greater good and about others before myself.
We are all connected, regardless of what we believe or want to think. The people we find despicable and pathetic are still human, just like we are. Be happy that your path provides you insight into your flaws so that you can always strive to be better, and provide encouragement and forgiveness for those who unable to. This all can be done without being a fool, a doormat or overly naive. Self-love is important too, but not to the level where it isolates you from your connection with humanity
My lesson for this week- help and encourage others – building up others will never tear me down.
- Muhammad Saleem: Too Seldom Is Heard an Encouraging Word: Why and How to Offer More Compliments (artofmanliness.com)
- Encouraging Kids’ Positive Thinking (babyzone.com)
- Karma Is What You Make It (leslieannvarela.wordpress.com)
- 10 Life Lessons People Learn Too Late (hofholistichealingcenters.com)
- The People Blog (mymondaymaptosuccess.typepad.com)