Day 216 Question 216 – Who are you at your best? Your worst?

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Day 216 Question 216.

I love sharing posts about how destructive the ego can be.  It’s what separates us from each other, separates us from God, separates us from all the love and positive energy that is ours in this world.

That’s not to say that being unique or an individual or true to yourself is bad.  It’s separating yourself from the rest of the world that’s damaging.  We all have our own unique talents, personalities, feelings.  We are all part of one big beautiful picture with different textures, colors and hues.

Diane’s post is personal but it speaks to everyone.

Give a Helping Hand

Help Others

Help Others (Photo credit: Keoki Seu)

A helping hand or encouraging word.

Sounds easy, doesn’t it?  But I believe this is a difficult lesson to learn and to practice.  That’s because the ego – that essence of our uniqueness will fight this almost every time, especially if in a work or other competitive situation where being ‘right’  or ‘recognized is considered important.

But it’s worth the fight.  I  have never forgotten those people in my life who have given me the great gift of encouragement and bolstered my confidence when I felt unsure or was ready to give up.  Those reflections help me put my monster ego aside and think about the greater good and about others before myself.

We are all connected, regardless of what we believe or want to think.  The people we find despicable and pathetic are still human, just like we are.  Be happy that your path provides you insight into your flaws so that you can always strive to be better, and provide encouragement and forgiveness for those who unable to.  This all can be done without being a fool, a doormat or overly naive.  Self-love is important too, but not to the level where it isolates you from your connection with humanity

My lesson for this week- help and encourage others – building up others will never tear me down.

30 Days of Self Esteem Day 3: Forgiveness

Forgiveness Mandala by Wayne Stratz

Forgiveness Mandala by Wayne Stratz (Photo credit: Nutmeg Designs)

Jan Deelstra’s premise works – “Letting go means living longer and healthier and happier.  If you must get even with the purveyor of betrayal, get even with the victimizer by living your best life, letting go of any attachment to the circumstances that you are now far beyond.”

Easy for me to say.  There is scientific proof (see blog link) that forgiveness contributes to good health and longevity.  So why has it been so damn difficult sometimes?  Why have I sometimes felt as though I am admitting a frailty or defeat when I forgive some one who’s wronged me?  Does forgiveness absolve the person and justify the actions? Continue reading